Common Ways Parental Relationships Impact Adult Relationships: Exploration via Therapy in Easton PA

By Jonathan Asayag, LCSW, Sex and Relationship Therapist

The way parents interact with their children can have a lasting impact on how those children form and maintain relationships in adulthood. Attachment styles, shaped by early experiences with caregivers, play a significant role in emotional availability and intimacy. Those who grew up with emotionally responsive parents often develop a secure attachment style, feeling comfortable with closeness and trust. However, if caregivers were inconsistent, distant, or critical, individuals may develop avoidant attachment (difficulty expressing emotions and fear of dependence) or anxious attachment (fear of abandonment and a need for constant reassurance). Many individuals only recognize these patterns when they enter marriage and couples counseling or seek therapy for relationship challenges.

Parental conflict resolution styles also shape how adults handle disagreements in their own relationships. If parents communicated openly and modeled healthy conflict resolution, their children are more likely to do the same. However, if one parent shut down emotionally while the other was overbearing, these behaviors may repeat in adulthood. Avoiding difficult conversations or reacting defensively can stem from these early experiences. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) can help individuals unlearn negative conflict patterns and develop more constructive ways to navigate disagreements. Similarly, messages about masculinity and emotional expression—such as discouraging vulnerability or emotional openness—can make it difficult for men to engage deeply in relationships. Addressing these barriers through relationship counseling for couples can foster emotional growth and connection.

The prioritization of work over relationships is another learned behavior from parental influence. If a father or male role model focused primarily on career success at the expense of personal connections, this pattern may continue into adulthood. Work-life balance counseling can help individuals set boundaries and shift priorities to create healthier relationships. Breaking these cycles is possible through CBT, mindfulness-based therapy, EMDR trauma therapy, and marriage and couples counseling via in-person or virtual therapy Easton PA.

As a Licensed Sex and Relationship Therapist, I offer in-person therapy in Easton, PA and virtual counseling appointments in West Chester, PA; Pittsburgh, PA; Lewes, DE; and Milton, DE. If you’re ready to address these patterns and strengthen your relationships, contact me to schedule a session.